Socially Stimulated OR Masked For Life!

Geet has a beautiful life. A loving family and loads of friends. Her wishes are fulfilled in the most surprising ways and she has nothing to complain.

Every time Geet takes to social media, she has posts flaunting her beauty, her travel escapades, her socializing, her family and even her pooch! Perfect. Isn’t it?

I rate this as a person who is ‘Socially Stimulated‘ to share her experiences through different social media accounts. Whether it is Facebook or Instagram or Twitter, there is something for every one of her followers to regale and go ‘ahhh….’

But, there is something drastically worrisome. She is ‘too perfect to be true’, she has the most perfect life, her posts are emotionally connected and she knows how to trigger a response. A great marketer, I must say!

She is addicted to social media and the ‘Likes’ or ‘Comments’ she receives.

Her addiction is stimulated by her peers, her relatives, her colleagues, and everything around her. She craves for attention from social media, often ignoring her precious life around.

However, she is slowly slipping into depression and no one even takes notice! She is ‘Masked for Life’.

She cannot accept less number of likes and always tries to find ways to keep her audience engaged, even if it means posting something absolutely measly.

My thoughts were completely stirred by a short movie that I happened to watch on Netflix- NOSEDIVE.

This particular movie actually, aptly, captures the way we all are ‘Slaves to Social Media’ and breaks down what it does to us. We live under constant pressure to prove ourselves in front of all people, we have to be polite to people, even if we do not want to be; we are under constant SCRUTINY for our actions and emotions, we are not free to express ourselves and WE ultimately break down in the most horrific way possible.

This addiction often stems from a daunting desire to prove ourselves in front of our peers and the world- ‘how perfect my life is’.

Perfection is a Myth and We are its’ Stimulants!

-Ankita
-Ankita

We may have come across such individuals, even our friends, who indulge in such addiction, without even realizing it. They often forget to take notice of all the beautiful things around them, just so that they can tell the world about every little detail about their life.

People take interest, of course, they do! People are more interested in what others do, than what they do themselves. This is a reality, and a very pressing one too.

What does this do to us? It makes us slaves of social media, where we seek happiness in others worldly posts, rather than our simple life.

Being Social Stimulated is a good thing, only if it-

  • Stimulates us to think positively.
  • Does not pressurize us to feel negative about OURSELVES.
  • Does not sow the seed of comparison in our mind.
  • Helps us to achieve our goals.
  • Builds a positive mindset that will help in our life and career.
  • Makes room for creativity.

If you think you are slowly steering towards being ‘Masked for Life‘, it is time to put a brake on ‘showcasing your reel life’ and ‘paying attention to your real life’.

You Are Dispensable

Don’t like the way the title starts? I am sure there is a lot crossing your mind at this moment, and the one thing that is prominently standing out is- Am I Dispensable?

We live in an increasingly active Gig Economy, with cutthroat competition everywhere. Whether it is your kid winning an award at school or an employee not being recognized for his/her contribution; everything around you boils down to one thing- Can I truly be replaced? Is everything around so superfluous, making it nothing less than a bubble waiting to be burst?

Well, this is a reality that is quite hard-hitting, but a fact.

Ashok loved his work too much. His dedication and analytical skills made him an asset to the organization. The CEO, Mr Ramakrishnan, loved the way this fellow conducted everything around him, with precision.
He loved his enthusiasm, his timely delivery, his passion for his work and a true attribute as a leader.

Having contributed around 10 years in the organization, Ashok was considered to be an asset and in a ‘safe-zone’ by most of his peers and top management. But, was this reality or a dream?

Ashok had worked very hard to get to the level he was at. He did sacrifice his personal life, his personal time, his time with Himself, to get to where he was today.

Remember there are no free lunches in this world, and Ashok had strived too hard to get to the place he wanted to be. Or did he?

Today, after almost a decade in the organization, Ashok did something that he would not usually do. He Took A Long Leave. Why did he do that? What was wrong? Why is Ashok on a holiday? Is everything alright with him? All these questions crossed everyone’s mind and no one quite understood the reason behind it.

Ashok was slipping into Depression, and no one ever got a hint about it. 

Why did this happen?

He worked too hard to get here. He did not give himself any time to breathe or enjoy the small things in life. His work-life balance was completely off the charts. He did not have a companion to go back to at the end of the day. His parents stayed really far away. And this, my friend, had started taking a toll on him after 10 years.

He had started slipping in tasks. His delivery was good but not as great as it used to be. There was an indispensable bar he had set for himself, and it was difficult to get there all the time.

This was getting noticed by his CEO, Mr Ramakrishnan, the top management, and they were getting really worried about the company’s deliverable. They had already started looking out for a “Suitable Replacement” for Ashok, someone with his skill sets.

Ashok was dispensable after all! But, he did not build a back up during his course of time.

We all live in a similar coherently stressful environment every day. There are many of us who think that we are indispensable. It is time to stop thinking in this manner and start doing something about it.

Build a hobby, take some time off, meet new people, join social groups, build a community around you, get a companion, and most importantly ‘Build Another Source Of Passive Income’.

You may find it ridiculous at the off-set, however, taking a step in this direction will start to make your life a tad bit exciting and secure.

Build on your passion.

If you love to play music, ,start teaching it, or performing it.

If you love to read, start a book reading community. Contribute at your close libraries and shelters around to keep this passion going.

If you love to Write, get down to it! Start by blogging on different online platforms, build your own blog or website, become a guest contributor on different online publications; start building a back up.

We are all dispensable as employees, as best students, as freelancers, as influencers, or as anything you do. But, the key to change this in your hands.

No one can change YOU. YOU are the only one who cannot dispense YOU. So build on your personal brand, start talking to people and make an alternate career to help you become a little more Indispensable to many.