Changing the Inevitable!!!

It seems that we have come a long way from the time we “gained” our independence however certain things have still not changed… Today when I reflect on the past happenings and what I see in Present, I cannot but wonder and help if the Future will be any different! Most of you or us would be wondering what am I trying to convey or write!!!

Well I am still trying to understand the difference of a baby boy being born or a baby girl being born as the first-born of a family! Today we proudly try and show the world that we have come a long way in terms of accepting change and becoming broad minded; by accepting that girls are no different than boys; showing that girls / women are equally capable of achieving great heights better or as good as the boys; but still somewhere we have an insecurity when it comes to a girl being born in a family… I have seen people especially elders brood over the fact that the first child of the family is not a boy and hence there wouldn’t be any celebrations or any calling out to relatives and friends to be a part of as joyous an occasion as a child being born… I have heard people comment that ‘how sad that it is a girl’ Had it been a boy it would be better… Please explain how would it be better… If not for a woman you would not be here and a child would not be born at all… Can no one understand the basics of anatomy or science or whatever it is called!

I have a friend of mine who’s extended family was “blessed” (and I truly mean the word) with a baby girl. Now it is an absolute delight when a child is born, not because it is a girl or boy but because it purely the most innocent soul on earth, devoured of any earthly and material feelings and who is a reflection of the Almighty in whatever way you perceive Her or Him! Now this particular friends extended family was not too pleased with the fact that the baby is a girl because they were sure it was to be a boy. They had prayed, spoken to relatives, looked at the way the mother walked and then deduced that it was to only be a boy. The fault also lay in the fact that the girls mother had very subtly fed it in the daughters head that it is definitely going to be a boy and it should be! (Why the hell should it be man!) Nevertheless when the baby was out the disappointment loomed longer and more than anyone thought it should.. All their dreams of gifting and receiving gifts, enjoying the pride of being called the grandparents or parents of a baby boy came crashing down. So evident was their disappointment that they did not even inform the relatives, did not post a status message (especially because the husband is an avid social media person), did not even offer sweets to the ones who came to visit!
Well my point here is, are you not happy that you were blessed with a baby!

Be it a girl or a boy, the Northern part of India and majority of India still believes in the idiosyncrasies of having a BOY!ย The fact that the birth of a baby actually has nothing to do with the mother as she is just a bearer of something that has been ‘gifted’ by the husband ย ๐Ÿ™‚ It is basic calculation, but however we still end up blaming the mother Only!!!!!ย Why!!! Because their parents, their grandparents, their relatives, their extended family in small towns and villages have told them so… No one has educated them telling that having a girl is being blessed with the most wonderful treasures of the world. The things that a daughter would do for her parents, the cutest way she would emotionally always be there for them and for anyone who needs her, the moments she would spare to just see a smile on the face of her loved ones… All these little pleasures in life will only come if you are “blessed” with a Baby Girl ๐Ÿ™‚

Again my point here is, whether it is girl or a boy, please feel happy that you have received a gift that some people are tired of trying to have! There are many individuals in Urban and Rural India who cannot conceive due to innumerable reasons and would be happy receive this gift in any form. So when you do have it, please cherish it! You may not be here to see it tomorrow and maybe, just maybe, someone else would be happy to see them also cherish moments with a girl or a boy as long as it is a little angel ๐Ÿ™‚

How about growing up and trying to make a small difference in the world by changing our attitude and in turn trying to better the attitude of others! The world needs to grow up, we as a Nation need to grow up and educate our future in a better and matured way…

“Stand Up and Make a Difference Today!”

An Afternoon of Sorts- Indraprastha Park, New Delhi

Lazy Sunday afternoons are best spent with family and friends enjoying an activity that binds and appeals to all the members. Every weekend we go out to some mall or shopping area of Delhi and spend time walking around and just doing window shopping. Nothing too productive but just a way to escape our daily life. This weekend we decided to do something different. Actually it was more of my husbands thought and idea that we ended up going for a picnic with our daughter and my mother.

Now the idea of picnic is something that still takes us down the memory lane when we used to go with our parents and friends to hill sides or lakes or dams with our picnic baskets and mats and games to play. Kiddos running around everywhere and elders chatting away on a sunny holiday afternoon. This picnic to Indraprastha Park in New Delhi was something similar but still with a difference. Though we packed all the food that our daughter would like to eat there in a bag, we didn’t quite take our food and mats. The park is spread over acres of land with a children’s park, amphi-theatre, a Buddha Stupa with a reclining Buddha statue and a Sitting. One can see people from all spaces and places coming to enjoy a picnic at this park every weekend. Now, the park is also a favourite haunt amongst young love-birds and dating couples. At every corner of and behind trees, near the edges of the park fence, one can see couples sitting arm in arm, snuggling in each other. Maybe not a sight that we may want our kids to observe and follow, however there seems to be lack of space in the city for these young love-birds. However, that said and done, the time when we used to go out for a picnic and now, have changed drastically.

Another thing that caught our attention was the fact that the park was filled with enthusiastic picnickers and families, however none had the basic sense of cleanliness. I have been wondering whether these are things that are taught to everyone or does it come naturally to some! For instance, a family sitting and eating chips next to us was enthusiastically chatting and eating food that was being served at the food stalls and eateries in the park, however once the food finished all they simply did was take the wrappers and throw it down under the bench. Now the dustbin which was hardly 20 metres looked like a gaping hole amidst the clutter of rubbish around it! It did amaze me that why couldn’t they simply take the rubbish and throw it there!

This was just one instance out of so many we observed that lazy Sunday! Though the whole park was littered, the beauty stolen and the vastness suddenly seeming so small, it was nevertheless a picnic that our daughter enjoyed and probably one that we took as a family for the first time in years.

Lets look back and ensure that we set examples of throwing rubbish in dustbins where we go and try to show rather than tell when we want someone to do something right!

Protect our environment and basic enjoyment details by being cautious ourselves!

Happy Picnicking and Holidaying ๐Ÿ™‚